Assertiveness | how to say no to others who ask too much

Assertiveness – how to say no to others who ask too much

There are many people that try to ask too much from us. They want everything handed to them and this is something that may get in our way from time to time.  It is not necessary for us to meet the needs of everyone around us all the time. Sure, it is nice to help out and do a good deed from time to time. However we have to keep our own needs and wants first in our life and make sure that we are assertive enough to get them.
You must take a few actions to be sure that you are not letting others walk all over you. There are some of our family and friends that think they can get us to anything that they want us to at any given moment.  This should not be the case. It is always nice to help a friend in need, but some people that have no assertiveness are going to put themselves last on the list.
You have to think about the things that you need in life. Do not let others make you forget how important you are and what you need to do.  If you think that there is someone in your life that is holding you back because they are asking too much from you, there are some things that you can do to be more assertive in life.

1.    You have to resist giving into others and not doing everything for other all the time. You need to learn when you can help and when you need to say no to people. These people are only taking advantage of you because they know they can.

2.    You have to learn to stand up for yourself. You are important and there are times when you need help in life too. You should think about how you can be stronger and get more assertiveness training to be the one that takes control of their life. 

3.    When you are saying no to someone that is always asking too much of you, remember to be strong. You have to be completely decisive and explain why you are not doing whatever the task is.  You do not have to apologize for not doing something. 

4.    You need to add some of these words when you speak, “I want” and “ I think” to your statements.  Your opinions are important and some people that are so involved in their own life are not going to take the time to see that you have your own opinions and feelings.  It is part of being assertive by expressing how you feel to others.

5.    Make sure that you are communicating to the person that is always asking too much of you. You need to let them know how you feel and that they are simply taking advantage of you and the needs that you have.  You have to let them know what you mean and mean what you say. 

Do not forget to practice all of these examples so that you can get it right when someone out there is trying to take advantage of you. 
You should always use eye contact when you are speaking to someone and be sure that you are doing all that you can to be assertive and stick up for the things in life that you want the most. You have to use your communication and your assertiveness to make your own life better and to no be taken advantage of by those that are around you.  This is the only way that you can be happy and survive the regret of being “had” by your friends and family members.